Something Old, Something New, Something Borrowed, Something Blue, and a Penny in Your Shoe

Something Old,
Something Blue,
A Penny in my Shoe

“Something old” represents the bride’s link to her family and the past. The bride may choose to wear a piece of family jewelry or her mother or grandmother’s wedding gown.

“Something new” represents hope for good fortune and success in the future. The bride often chooses the wedding gown to represent the new item.

“Something borrowed” usually comes from a happily married woman and is thought to lend some of her good fortune and joy to the new bride.

“Something blue” is a symbol of love, fidelity, and purity of the bride.

A penny in her shoe is to wish the bride wealth in her future life.

Wedding March

The traditional church wedding features two bridal marches, by two different classical composers. The bride walks down the aisle to the majestic, moderately paced music of the “Bridal Chorus” from Richard Wagner’s 1848 opera “Lohengrin. The newlyweds exit to the more jubilant, upbeat strains of the “Wedding March” (From Felix Mendelssohn’s “A Midsummer Night’s Dream.”)

The custom dates back to the royal marriage, in 1858, of Victoria, princess of Great Britain, and Empress of Germany, to Prince Frederick William of Prussia. Victoria, eldest daughter of Britain’s Queen Victoria, selected the music herself. A patron of the arts, she valued the works of Mendelssohn and practically venerated those of Wagner. Given the British penchant for copying the monarchy, soon brides throughout the Isles, nobility and commoners alike, were marching to Victoria’s drummer, establishing a Western wedding tradition

Does he want a dowry?

crystal garaden webA dowry – the money or property a bride brings to her husband at marriage – was common throughout much of the ancient world, and also flourished in medieval Europe.
In many places around the world, weddings were formal occasions, accompanied by much gift giving and ritual. The practice of dowries apparently originated when a bride’s parents gave her presents. As time went on, the dowry developed various functions. A dowry of household goods often helped the newly weds set up their own home. A dowry of property or jewelry would help the wife support herself if her husband died. Generally, the husband returned the dowry to his in-laws if he and his wife divorced or if his wife died childless.
Sometimes, the groom’s family paid for the bride, often to compensate her family for the money spent raising her. If the bride had been a valuable worker, her family was sometimes compensated for the loss of her economic support.
Romans, having complicated traditions governing marriages, had specific dowry laws. Traditional Chinese and Hindu engagements and weddings were also governed by specific rules and considerable ritual.

What Fun!!

Nick Grad web

  • Friday, was Nick’s 18th Birthday
  • Saturday, Nick graduated from Livingston Christian Schools
  • Monday, Nick swore in as a US Marine
  • September, Nick is now a Freshman at Oakland University

Your Wedding is the most important day……

Your wedding is one of the most important events in your entire life, and I understand that you want it to bring delightful memories to everyone involved — especially you!

The Wedding Cake — lovingly prepared and beautifully presented — is a major part of this event. I can help you design a cake that will meet all of your high expectations, as well as respect your budget. Then I will work with you every step of the way to ensure that things are carried out flawlessly, so that you and your new spouse can relax and enjoy the day instead of fretting over details.

Please note that I do not play the game that many bakers play. When you ask, “How much will this cake cost?” they quote you a price that sounds eminently reasonable. What they “forget” to mention is that this is just the cost of the cake, and that everything else is “extra” i.e. delivery, set up, rental of plates, pillars, fountain, etc. By the time this is all tacked onto price of the cake, you wind up paying two or even three times the initial quote.

I think that’s outrageous. It’s standard industry practice, but I disapprove of it, because I want you to feel good about working with me, not like you’ve been sucked into a whirlwind from which there is no escape. I will sit down with you over cake and coffee/tea, find out exactly what you need, and then give you one all-inclusive price.

Great cake, great service, and honest pricing — I’ll take good care of you!

Calling the single ladies to the dance floor is so not my style!

Q:.  Is there anything fun that I can do instead?

 If you’re having kids at your reception, you can invite them up for a teddy bear toss. Or throw a bouquet of candy; either will go over big with the little ones!

 

 

If it is adults-only, you can do a “marriage appreciation dance.”  That’s when the emcee calls all married couples out to the dance floor and gradually asks them to sit based on how long they’ve been married.  The pair who’ve been married the longest are the last ones standing.  Award them with a bottle of wine or your toss bouquet.

So you’re planning your wedding?

Of course you’ve thought of the dress, the colors, the flowers, the invitations……    And now it’s time to think about the wedding cake. So where do you start?

Wedding cakes are a predominantly a Western tradition in marriage ceremonies.

It is the tradition that a newly married couple stand together, hand on hand, and cut the cake together. This is because cutting the cake is a symbol of unity and togetherness. Cutting the wedding cake together is also another essential marker of the couple’s commitment to one another on their special day. This is basically the reason why wedding cakes are still so popular in modern culture.

When looking for your wedding cake, think taste and looks first.  Always get a tasting of cake from the cake designer you are considering.  Love the taste and love the creativity and looks of the baker’s cakes,  go for it.

A good baker will:

  • listen to you and see what kind of cake you want
  • will answer all your questions.  Remember, no question is ever stupid.
  • give you ideas to help you make your decision
         Remember next to you in your wedding dress, your wedding cake will be the most remembered.

I personally prefer tying shoes to the car, over…..

The tradition of tying shoes to the back of the couple’s car stems from Tudor times. Back then, guests would throw shoes at the bride and groom. If they or their carriage were hit, it meant good luck was bestowed upon them.

In Anglo Saxon times, to establish his authority the groom symbolically struck the bride with a shoe. Brides would then throw a shoe at the bridesmaids to see who would marry next. Makes you appreciate the bouquet toss, doesn’t it?

Throwing old shoes after the bride is a sign that authority is being transferred from the bride’s father to her new husband. A variation is for the bride’s father to throw her shoe after the groom as a token of his surrender of his daughter. Personally I am in favor of this one.

Easy paint brush cleanup!

Make a solution of 1 gallon warm water and 1/2 cup fabric softener.  After you have finished painting, dip the brushes or rollers in the solution and swish around.  The softener actually reduces the surface tension of the water so that paint comes off the brush quickly and settles at the bottom of the bucket.

Marriage is the strongest bond the world has ever known.

Marriage is a bringing together.

It is a bringing together of two people, of two families, of two tribes, of two villages, or even two countries.

Marriage is that powerful.

Marriage is not something to be entered into lightly.

Marriage is a pledge meant to last a lifetime.

Yet it is one of the unceasing marvels that we are able to express something as basic as love and marriage in so many wonderful and touching ways. Such is the wonder of human existence. The ceremonies and the traditions may be different, they may seem strange or outlandish or they may touch feelings in us that we never knew we had, but there is something about marriage that is instantly recognizable no matter what the language.